The suicide of Aaron Hernandez has led to a discussion for many about the very topic of suicide. A serious topic. As a Psychotherapist, I have found through the years that the most common question asked when someone commits suicide (whether it is a celebrity, a family member, a friend…) is: why? Thus, this brief blog article touches upon the topic of why, in relationship to suicide.
Dr. Ruskin provides psychotherapeutic perspective on the topic of suicide.
Aaron’s demeanor in his most recent court room experience has led the public to analyze and wonder what his behavior meant, if there were warning signs to have known in advance that he was going to commit suicide, and if there were triggers. NBC News Boston came to my office based in Massachusetts on April 19th, the very day of his suicide, where I addressed on air these very points. During this interview when I was asked about his court room tears, I explained that we, as the “audience” so to speak, see a person’s response not just to the experience (in this case Aaron’s response to the court judgement), we are seeing behavior in response to “something deeper that is going on within the person’s self, the inner thoughts”. We as a public do not always know what those inner thoughts are of another person (in this case Aaron), when we see a particular behavior. I further explained: “to get to a point where a person commits suicide, it is a symptom of a loss of hope.” As to what Aaron lost hope about, what he felt he could no longer to live to endure, perhaps only he knew, and/or with the coming days we as a public may learn more.
If you would like to watch my interview on NBC New Boston, I invite you to do so: A psychological look at Aaron Hernandez’s suicide.
- If you or someone you know is feeling hopeless, please seek out help from a mental health professional.
NBC News Boston – TV show: ‘This is New England’ provided it’s viewers with a touching love story of a couple who died 6 hours apart, told by their adult son. During this special segment for Heart Health Month and Valentine’s Day, I was asked to share my expertise as a Psychotherapist whom specializes in matters of the heart. Specifically, as a Marriage and Family Therapist I provided a special message that aired during this segment entitled: Can you die of a broken heart? (My message begins at the 3 minute 44 second mark). I invite my following to check out this moving story.
Additionally, if you are interested in learning more about love and loss including: tips for coping with grief, different kinds of love, and the mind-body connection (the heart and brain in communication), I invite you to check out my blog article: Love and Loss .
February is heart health month. Coming up this week is Valentine’s Day. Some say that I am in the ‘heart business’, as I am a Marriage and Family Therapist providing relationship counseling. Love loss and love gain is a common theme in relationships, be it the marital relationship or the parent-child relationship, the relationship one has with one’s professional self (e.g., loss of a job you put your all into), loss of a pet… Additionally, there are those of whom believe the heart is the place where we experience many of our feelings, thus the heart has a voice. Put all of the above together, and that is what led me to write this particular blog article where you will find 4 key points through a relationship therapist’s lens: 1) the heart and brain connection, 2) emotional pain presents itself physically, 3) different kinds of love, 4) seven coping tips for the hurting heart/love loss. [click to continue…]
The democratic house members who are not attending the upcoming Presidential inauguration are throwing an adult version of a temper tantrum and displaying unsportsmanlike conduct at the least, and at worst they are demonstrating warring behaviors within our country exacerbating division and hatred while overtly displaying a lack of leadership.
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The latest timely topic in the news includes a debate about the song: ‘Baby it’s cold outside’. This is an oldie holiday song currently being picked at/debated on social media as unacceptable male behavior, inferring the women is the victim. It concerns me that holidays cannot be holidays with songs from the past to simply be enjoyed as they intended to be. It seems as such all becomes a political debate… THAT song is being picked at when there are many songs of the now that are profoundly blatantly disturbing. [click to continue…]
As a psychotherapist, Marriage and Family Therapist, who provides counseling to working mothers and stay at home mothers, and is thus well aware of the challenges of balancing, navigating, and managing multiple parts of one’s life (children, work, marriage, personal health…), today’s blog addresses my genuine disappointment regarding the negative commentary via social media about Kellyanne Conway’s lack of acceptance of a full time position in the Trump administration. Additionally, as a woman, business owner, mother, and wife, I understand on a personal identifiable level the significance and importance of the decisions that we make as women. As the choices we make on our parenting journey is meaningful and impactful for ourselves and our family’s health and wellness. [click to continue…]
As a mental health professional in private practice I work with people of varied life experiences, each of whom are on their own unique journey. Couples/marriage counseling, individual counseling (youth, adults), and family counseling; topics ranging from relationship issues (e.g., parent-child relationship, husband-wife relationship, dating) – to – personal mental health (e.g., anxiety, depression, self worth) – to – professional health and wellness (e.g., goal accomplishment, career discovery/transition) – to – family and extended family relationship dynamic issues. There are various presenting challenges clientele come to my office to receive help for, today’s blog article will focus on the identified athlete. Specifically, through the years some of my clientele have included young children who define themselves as athletes based upon their sport of interest, to the High School level, college athletes, and professional athletes of whom have discovered their profession and their passion as one in the same. Let us take a moment to think about the following: what happens emotionally to a person when he defines himself as an athlete (whether it is football, basketball, baseball . . .) is no longer an athlete? If your identity is as an athlete, and you are no longer an athlete, what’s next? [click to continue…]
In contrast to the usual focus of my blog articles which provide tips, insight and perspective on varied mental health topics, relationships, marriage, dating, parenting, and timely topics in the news (e.g., politics, sports, celebrities) through my lens as a Psychotherapist/Marriage and Family Therapist, this blog rather shares my personalized experience as a mother. Specifically the topic is: you know you are a football mom when… (of course, moms and dads of children who play other sports certainly will relate to much of this, but… today’s topic is, well, you get the idea. Here it is, my top 8 ways you know you are a football mom. [click to continue…]
Various studies report the link between chronic marijuana use and mental illness (e.g., anxiety, depression, schizophrenia). Yet painfully, far too many are ignoring this and rather preach a use in moderation philosophy rather than a just say no lifestyle. As a mental health professional I help parents every day with the fight against what is becoming a cultural norm. Specifically, I help parents to hold the philosophy and teach their children marijuana abstinence rather than use in moderation, despite living in a culture where the use of marijuana is becoming more and more acceptable with legalization playing a significant role in the acceptance of what is unacceptable. [click to continue…]
With mounting evidence displaying verifiable proof that Presidential candidate Hillary Clinton is corrupt and has been for quite some time, has put national security at risk, has lied under oath, has a pattern of blaming others rather than taking ownership of behaviors, cannot be trusted to put the country first rather is quite skilled in the game of pay to play, the question on the table is: what is the psychology of why there remains many whom are still voting for her? Today’s article answers this very question providing 6 psychological reasons why there are many Hillary Clinton supporters who remain loyal to date. [click to continue…]